When it comes to marriage, it is one of the most curious subjects of women. According to some, the bride-in-law is not compatible with each other even in the same sentence. As always, we will try to look at the event from different perspectives. Perhaps different perspectives will help you find your own answers.
Bride-Mother-in-Law Date
According to important researchers, the history of the bride and mother-in-law dates back to ancient times. In those days, rules were more important than many things. The aim was to survive and ensure the continuation of the lineage. According to different studies, the customs and traditions that came with the advent of religions are the starting point of the bride-mother-in-law’s wars. Of course, this should not be misinterpreted. Customs and traditions have caused great changes in our lives until today. But there have been some cases where people abused it. According to some studies, this is the beginning of the mother-in-law’s war.
I don’t think it was an issue for discussion in the times when women were slaves who had to bear children and do housework. Mother-in-laws, who were former slaves due to the slavery brought by the system at that time, had to employ new slaves in the chain of command. When we travel from these bad times to a little more modern times, we see that cultures have domesticated themselves over time.
Thanks to the women’s rights that come with religions, it has been realized that much more humane living conditions and women’s right to live. However, in this time, the religious rules and some situations in customs were perceived differently.
These problems still persist today. The first life experience of the girl who came to the house in those periods is the sexuality that she did not receive education and she struggled with serious workload while dealing with problems. After religions and modernity, women who had to share the same house started to look after each other over time. At this time, the rule that the men of the house want to establish is to be an oppressed group. Maybe we’re talking about a war from those times.
Common Reasons for Controversy with the Mother-in-Law Today
There are present-day excuses that don’t quite match the seriousness of the ancient battle for survival. In fact, it is seen that modernization, which will be the basis of the problem, has a serious effect on the problem. The ages, which are constantly developing and provide more opportunities as they develop, cause conflict between generations. Note that the most common word for mother-in-law used in a fight begins with “in our time” or occurs in a sentence. Mother-in-laws, who are right in their own way, expect much more tolerance in this comfort. Of course, there are those who suffer from being a male mother. So that seems to be the main problem. It is necessary to put the blame on perspectives, not on modernity. Brides who don’t count their elders? Or are the mother-in-laws who do not accept the change of time and blame their daughter-in-laws, only time will tell. In fact, as the era changes, the type of question and the style of the answers will change. As we have seen in the researches of the past periods, there has been a transition from the wars of survival to the wars that we will call the “trinket bead”. Are the wars more serious when choosing furniture, cooking, cleaning or standing next to elders, or are the wars caused by the chain of slavery that pre-religious rules imposed on women? You will give the answer as always.
What Should You Do To Solve The Bride-Mother-in-Law Problems?
Responsibility for men:
Men actually have a great responsibility while experiencing these problems. Because both sides will want to justify themselves to him. What the man has to do is to play both sides by keeping his neutral stance. Perhaps the man who has not known how to act until this time will understand marriage and theater actors very well. Because every word he says will be used as evidence against him. It has to be a honey bee that gets the two sides together and instills common sense without breaking them.
Brides’ responsibility:
Of course, brides have the right to live their own lives in the modernizing world. However, they should try to understand their mother-in-law, who had difficulties in the past, considering that each period is easier. As I emphasize in every article, the greatest cure is always empathy. Even if they think about this for men, they will have taken a very big step. It will be a great challenge to confront and leverage the mothers who have raised him up until this time. Considering the opposite of the same situation, a logical decision will be made.
Responsibility of mother-in-law:
No matter what you do, life changes. My late father has a nice saying. “Instead of living in the shadow of the past and dreaming of the future, we should look at the present.” You don’t know how long life will last or what it will show. You need to support the well-being of the new generation while recounting the hardships you have had in the past with great anger. Even if you want to, the new generation does not show the respect you show. If you can do this with good intentions, you will be happy. Perhaps the most difficult task falls to you. However, with years of maturity and experience, you can pass this exam simply by changing your perspective.
Responsibility for families and neighbors:
What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. It is necessary to keep the problems in the family within the family. Every family has a gossip. If this number is too much, it is your bad luck. Knowing how special these situations are, on the contrary, it is necessary to take a constructive role. Seeking right and wrong often puts problems in a dead end. Is it important to identify the right person here? Or save a home? I think the answer to this question can tell you the truth.
